Hey, let's talk about....judging

It's that time again, time for another round of hey, let's talk about....

This week I've decided to discuss about judging

& by judging I'm meaning judging people.

 

I've decided that at the start of every month now when I do my hey, let's talk about post. I will be involving some of my lovely friends & the lovely blogging ladies (who are actually becoming my friends too).

 

This week I asked Sinead & Michaela if they fancied taking part & both of the girls were excited & happy to be a part of this. Both of the girls have their own blogs too. Sinead can be found here & Michaela can be found here. I really like both of their blogs so be sure to head on over & check them out.

 

Let's get started, when I decide to do a post I always head on over to weheartit to find myself a lovely image that fits in with the discussion. I basically just searched judging & this is actually a quote that I like myself & it actually was in my images I had hearted.

 

Image found on weheartit

 

"You know my name, not my story" is such a true quote because of course most of us judge without knowing someone's story/past & sometimes we even judge without knowing their name. But of course we all judge people, it's part of life. Our judgement is what helps us through life when it comes to choosing friends & people you want to be a part of it. There is absolutely nothing wrong with making judgements at all. Most of us will probably go by our first judgements, which is usually our gut instinct. I know that sometimes you can feel bad for judging people, but I don't think it is something we should feel bad about at all, remember we are all only human. It's completely natural. We all judge & we are all judged too, it's the way life goes. Yeah, it's not really a nice feeling but we are all guilty of judging others too. Nobody is exactly the victim in this.

 

I'm going to now share with you the girls opinions on judging people.

 

- Sinead -

In my opinion judging people is completely normal, it is something everyone does and is part of human nature. Throughout my teenager years, especially when I began secondary school I was a lot worse at judging people before I got to know them, both male and females. If someone looked scruffy, geeky, overweight or just generally unattractive, I would think to myself 'OK I definitely don't want to associate myself with them' which looking back on now was very shallow and harsh of me. But as I went through secondary school I actually became good friends with a lot of people I initially had that opinion of, and realized the amazing personalities they had. Now that I'm older and a little wiser I definitely appreciate that even if someone appears a certain way at first, that doesn't mean that they don't have the potential to make amazing friends and add a lot to your life. I'm not going to lie, I definitely do still judge 'the book by the cover' so to speak, but I keep an open mind now, I give them a chance, I realise that they could still be amazing people and I never rule out getting to know the person underneath. I don't think any of us should feel bad about judging people by the way they look, dress or just generally come across, its completely natural. But I do think that we should not let those initial judgments stop us from giving people the chance to show us what they are really like.

 

- Michaela -

I think more than the majority of people makes the mistake with judging people. Judging them on their appearance, the way they talk, their likes and dislikes, on their opinions. And it has happened occasionally where I get it wrong. Where I think I know a person. A few months back I met someone who was in my college course in Ireland. And they appeared the rough, dangerous type. I was judging them immediately on the way they dressed, and the way they spoke. They had come over to Ireland from a rough part in Britain. So days passed, and they would talk to me, and I found myself laughing and enjoying our conversations. I felt so bad and ashamed with myself that I had judged them so badly. I told them of what I thought about them when I first met them, and they weren't the least bit annoyed with me, they funnily enough laughed. So from them on I tried to stop judging on first impressions. Sometimes our judgmental impressions are correct, but we should be the ones who make an effort. We should give the other person a chance. It's only right! Even though our appearances are different, and that we come from different places and have different beliefs, we should all give people a chance. They say opposites attract and friendships begin in the strangest of places. And they do! We must take the steps in listening and communicating to one another carefully, and figure out who people really are. No more judging! No more first impressions! Let's give everyone a real chance.

This post has been a little mixture of opinions but that is usually the case when you ask different people their opinion on something.

What do you think about judging people?
Let us know in the comments below.

Thanks for reading.
- Anna ♥